How much power have you given away by blaming someone else for how you feel? Most of us do this all the time. It is so much easier to stay in a constant state of blame, meaning it is everyone else's fault for how we feel. Today I want to talk to you about setting down the blame and leaning into deciding how to take full responsibility for all your emotions.

No other person gets to determine how you think and feel about yourself. Once you learn how to take full responsibility for your thoughts and emotions, you become unstoppable. Before you tell yourself this is too hard, just be open to believing this is possible for you. That is where you start, with the belief that it is possible.

This is why what you think about yourself matters way more than what anyone else thinks of you.

Navigating the the world of post mormonville takes a minute (or years).

I am a bit on fire in the episode, but I ease you into it. Imma gunna give you a little bit of tough love. I start with a few minutes telling you all about Truman, our new pup! Setting you all up with warm fuzzies. ;)

Truth of the matter is it is the Wild Wild West in the world of exmormondom. Lots of voices and thoughts and opinions going on out there. I want to help you refocus on what is important and where you need to be spending your time to help you heal.

I will add a “proceed with caution” sign as you dip your toe in the water of all things exmormon. Or not!!! YOU decide.

No rush, no race, to your healing journey. I know we do not like the feelings that our religious, spiritual life crisis created, but it is part of the ride. I want to talk to you today about what it really means to shed and release the more difficult parts of this process and why being gentle with yourself is going to help soothe your soul.

A new year brings new ideas and the intention to perfect your life. You make a list and then think that in order to create happiness for yourself you need to accomplish all the things on your list. Then when the 3rd week of January rolls around and you have fallen off the wagon and you start feeling like you are never going to be good enough and you give up. This week I want to teach you how you can look at goal setting with new eyes, new thoughts and better feelings. Ready? Let's go! Exmormonology Ep. 87 Future Focus.

Year 3 of Exmormonology has begun! Today I want to talk about how I plan to move forward and through 2022 and the direction of the content you will continue to receive via my podcast. I have several fun events planned for this year and I can't wait to share them with you. Which one(s) will you be joining me? You do get to feel better in this life. Do not believe the thoughts that trick you into thinking that you are not enough, not worthy and not worth it. "It" being the thought work that will help you feel like you are the boss of your brain and not all the "toxic" and "drama filled" people in your life. I am here to help you through it all! Ready Wildflower? Let's start this year off with commitment to improving your mental health.

Exmormonology Ep. 85 the final episode in our 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas mini series, A Love Note from me to you.

Okay Wildflower, you are most likely heading into big time family time today and tomorrow. If you want more connection with your family this holiday season, I want to guide you through a method that I use to help me find more genuine connection with my family. I know it does not seem fair to put in work to make this happen when you are already doing so much healing work in relation to your faith/identity shift. I get it. But, here we are. Let's figure it out together.

Exmormonology ~ 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas, Day 10. Today we are talking about anxiety during the holidays and how it may be intensified post faith/identity crisis. I want to give you some concrete things you can do to help you lessen the anxiety you may be feeling as you head into holiday gatherings.

ay 9 of our mini Exmormonology 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas series is a very quick, down and dirty, reminder for you this holiday season. It is simple but HUGELY important. I do not want to give it away, but please take the 4:16 mins to listen to this episode. I hope it is helpful!

Day 8 of 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas. If you have been listening to Exmormonology for any amount of time, you know that I believe...music is life! So, what do we do about Christmas music??? Are you loving it still? Hate it? Avoiding it? Let's talk about a few ideas of what you can do in and on Day 8 of our mini Exmormonology series.

Twelve Days of Post Mormon Christmas, Day 7. Let's talk about Jesus, shall we? If you are struggling to reconcile Jesus and Christmas and what you believe, tune in. I mean, Jesus is the reason for the season right? Maybe, but that is up to you and I know it feels weird deciding something like this when you grew up thinking this was a fixed belief. As you have quickly discovered, everything is up for debate and decision.

I am sure you are finding your Post Mormon Brain has to work overtime right now. Ugggg, right?! Dammit, but here we are.

I want to walk you through the thought process that helped me navigate this uncomfortable space during Christmas time, especially early in my deconstruction years.

Ready for Day 6 of 12 Days Of Post Mormon Christmas? Is overwhelm synonymous with the holidays for you? I think I have a pretty good idea why. When you spend your time trying to make sure everyone is “happy” and taken care of you often forget to take care of you. When you live in people pleasing land, you are not really showing up in your truth if you are the one feeling miserable. I want to talk about it today in a way that maybe you have not thought about before.

Exmormonology’s 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas ~ Day 5 ~ Christmas and Tradition

Exmormonology’s Post Mormon Las Vegas Christmas

Outside the Christmas Lines

If you are a wildflower that struggles through the Christmas season, this mini Exmormonology episode is for you, especially if you are not sure what to do with Christmas now that you are no longer a believer or not sure what you believe anymore. Don't run away from these tender feelings. Let's talk about how to honor them

Are you finding “The Holidays” have a completely different feel to it now, post mormon? Navigating the holidays can be a hard time without adding the layer of your faith transition. So, over the course of the next two weeks, I want to give you mini Exmormonology Episodes that can help you as you decide what you want this time of year to mean for you.

Wildflower, get your pen and paper ready for this Exmormonology Episode! Do you feel stuck in life? Like you keep going round and round with the same struggles and you can seem to get anywhere? I think I know why this is happening and so I want to walk you in the direction of possibility. It is easy to be a consumer of information, but to make small AND big changes in your life you need to prime your brain. So, let's walk towards dream land and start creating what you want your life to be like.

While I was in NYC I thought it would be fun to record a podcast in Washington Square Park, so I did! You get to hear all the city noises in this podcast. I thought you may like to join me for a little bit of NYC. It is such a fun and electric city. Join me as we talk about how you are not lost.

It is normal for you to feel a bit lost after your mormon faith crisis.

I mean, when your life narrative has been removed and you feel left grappling in the dark, it can feel very lonely and confusing.

Today, I want to talk about what to do about it and how you can start rephrasing this chapter of your life.

Many of us feel like we have to "find ourselves" and that thought alone can be overwhelming.

Where does one look to find themselves? In the back of the spare bedroom closet? Under the throw blanket on the couch?

Nah, that is not how this works.

The answer is quite simple and not as daunting as you may be thinking. Let's have some fun finding yourself!

Researching and staying abreast of all things mormon is a common part of mormon deconstruction. We want to find the perfect proof to show our loved ones how we came to our decision to leave the church.

Or at least make sure we have crossed our Ts and dotted our Is, because, you know...our eternal salvation and all.

Makes sense, right?

Let's talk about why we do this and when it may be time to stop, or at least reduce the time spent looking.

Because at the end of the day, this is about you trusting yourself, for maybe the first time ever.