Falling Wide Awake.
Trusting what you have known all along.
It is your turn now.
This work is for you if you have done the healing.
You know so many tools.
You have read all the books.
You have listened to all the podcasts.
You know all the proper terms for what you have gone through.
You know your trauma and all of your pain points.
But you still do not feel “healed.”
In other words, you know all the things logically, and yet, when it come time to choose differently, you hesitate.
This is work is not about more healing. This work is about moving forward without abandoning yourself.
I work with women who are awake.
Awake to the ways they were trained to be good instead of true and authentic. Awake to belief systems, religious, familial, cultural, that taught you to mistrust your own knowing. Awake to patriarchy, emotional labor and the quiet exhaustion for being everything for everyone else.
Most of the women I work with are in mid life or approaching it. Have gray hair coming in and aren’t apologizing for it. Are navigating perimenopause/menopause and with that, identity shifts and changing bodies. Are socially aware and paying attention to the world and are no longer interested in spiritual bypassing or self improvement theater.
I am not here to convince you of anything. I know you have been through a lot. I know you are wise and knowing.
This last piece of your puzzle is hard. It is trusting yourself to move forward and change the story that runs subconsciously through your brain and body. I just have a sneaking suspicion you are afraid to let the old you go.
Stepping into the new you does feel scary.
You don’t know this version of you yet and so you cling to the past/current version of you. It feels safe there. I get it.
However, I don’t believe confidence comes from more information.
And I don’t believe your past gets to decide your future.
Healing matters and so does moving on from healing and living your life the way you want to.
And there comes a point where staying in healing mode becomes another way to avoid living.
This work is about closing the gap between what you already know and how you actually want to live your life.
It is about practicing self trust in real time, in relationships, in your decisions and in how you show up in your own life.
What this work is (and isn’t)
This is not:
Therapy
Endless processing
Trauma excavation for the sake of it
Being coached into a version of yourself that feels foreign
This is:
Learning to trust yourself without needing certainty
Feeling your emotions without letting them run the show
Making decisions from your adult self, not your survival self <—- (the most important part)
Setting down the old story without disowning the woman who survived it.
We honor her and we stop letting her fear write the next chapter.
Most women I work with don’t need more tools (although I have many to share).
They, you, need…consistency, reflection, accountability and someone steady enough to walk with them while they practice choosing differently.
I bridge the space between understanding yourself and living like you trust yourself.
I work with a small number of women at a time, in a long term, one on one private coaching container.
If you are no longer interested in becoming a better version of your past self and you are ready to live forward with clarity, self trust and grounded confidence, you can learn more about working with me below.