Exmormonology Ep. 19 Mormon Social Distancing and Love Bombs
Are you pulling back from mormon friends and family activities?
Do you feel your mormon friends and family pulling away from you?
It is a lot like, which came first, the chicken or the egg? Right?
You are most likely feeling a huge disconnect and when you can no longer go through the motions, you start to pull away.
Your friends and family are not quite sure what to say, especially because mormons do not like conflict, extra extra, and so they most likely will not ask what is going on.
You pull back because you need time and space to try and figure out what you believe. You are processing A LOT. Your emotions are most likely all over the place, and if you are like me, you just want to make sense of all of it.
In this episode of Exmormonology, I ask you to put your mormon brain on, just for a sec. If you have ever been in bishopric meetings, or primary or young women’s meetings, you know how the “less active” get talked about. Now, when you are in your mormon brain, did you think this was invasive? Most likely not. You probably thought, we just want everyone to feel loved and welcome. This is generally the intention of members. They are for sure not thinking “let’s annoy the Logan family.” At least I don’t think that was my intention when I left notes and goodies on the doorsteps of the “less active.”
When you can frame it that way, it may help you, if these things happen to you and you hate it.
It is perfectly okay for you to take a step back as you figure things out.
You do not need to hurry this process. This is not a race.
Only you get to determine how much to pull back, how much you want to be involved and what any of the reactivating attempts to mean about you.
Have a listen and let me know what you think.
